I have a friend who in his own right is the male version of a spinster. He is Mormon, over the age of 25(actually closer to 35) and is not married and therefore he’s probably a menace to the church. My friend Jen and I have known Mark for years. Mark’s name was tossed around last weekend when a mutual friend wanted to set him up with Jen. Jen is a single girl, while over the age of 30 and not married she is beautiful and has her stuff together. Jen did not want to go out with Mark because she did not find him attractive. Now in Mark’s defense he is a really great guy, but admittedly not the best looking guy out there, but not hideous either. I found it interesting and kind of shallow that Jen would not even give him a chance based solely on looks.
Into the story comes Sara our drop dead gorgeous friend who added to the conversation by saying she would not ever go out with a guy she was not attracted to up front. It got me thinking about him. He’s a good guy and I truly believe that you can become more attracted to a person over time. So I put him in the “yes I would hang out with him” box along with Peyton Manning, Smith Jerrod from Sex and the City, and the Rock if they were single.
A couple of days later Mark hits me up on instant messenger and we chat back and forth for over 2 hours. It was unusual because we aren’t great friends and just recently got in contact again. I thought it was a great conversation and I learned that we have a lot in common. I thought it was a pleasant surprise that we were chatting. Then toward the end of the conversation he asks, “Hey so I wanted to ask you about Sara.” After my eyes stopped rolling, I replied that she was involved with someone. I couldn’t break his heart by telling him the truth because I knew that she would never give him the time of day.
It’s then I realized I just got used for the last 2 hours. I thought it rather interesting that we could talk for so long and have so much in common and yet he could only see the Super Model. Super Model material he is not…It’s so typical. Some guys think they deserve the super-model/doctor/lawyer/relief society president all rolled into one. Even if they aren’t equal to it; they all think they deserve it. In case one is not aware. That woman does not exist. It’s called a reality check boys!!!
Dating advice from Brigham Young
7 years ago
4 comments:
You should have been honest and told him. He needs a reality check and you could have given it to him. I once gave a reality check to a guy named... oh, let's call him "willis" and, well, it didn't really change things for him but I sure felt satisfied afterwards!
I would have told him that you suggested it to her and that she's not interested. Psht. I agree with cropstar. I have a brother like that who need a reality check and I have to administer it in large doses. lol.
Amen sister! Perhaps you should go junk punch him, and then when he is on the ground, just say "You know what you did!" Perhaps a bit of overkill, but for sure a reality check.
...LOL... I don't know why I couldn't just tell him that the other girls didn't want him... after all it was just instant messaging... I have no problem at work bursting guys bubbles on a regular basis!!! I guess at home I just turn into a softy... and yes, next time I am going to just punch him and say... You know what you did!!!...
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